Hello beautiful. I know we generally had a lot of big energy, motivation, and inspiration going into 2020, and then a lot of shit happened. I was just telling my Uncustomary Babes that whether it’s natural disasters, war, or stuff going on in your personal life, it’s up to us to change things, not a calendar. Yes the idea of a blank slate is amazing and tempting, but it doesn’t create magic on its own. We are the ones in charge of taking action, of making our goals happen, of protesting, of giving back to the environment. January 1st doesn’t deliver your dreams at your doorstep as much as we might like to think it might.

2020 hit hard, and it’s very much okay to retreat to your safe space for your own mental health, but like I wrote about here, remember that not everyone in the world has the privilege of dissociating from reality or going into a fort to escape what’s happening out there in the world or in your mind. That doesn’t mean you can’t do it, but recognize your privilege, have perspective, and still try your best to do what you can to educate yourself and help.

Speaking of which, like many other entrepreneurs, I’m taking this opportunity to donate funds I raise from my e-book sales to the aid for Australia Bushfires. It’s only $5 to purchase, an immediate download, with 30 pep talks that you can binge read or do one a day for a month. They’re all on different topics and have actionable assignments and inspiration for each lesson. If you already have it for yourself, you can give it to a friend. The benefit of doing something like this is that you are getting a product in exchange for your donation, so it’s a bonus. I’d say everyone wins, but not everyone is winning right now. Also, shoutout to the Naked Philanthropist. She’s a damn hero.

Buy My Pep Talk E-Book – 50% Of Proceeds Go To Australia Bushfire Aid

I missed doing Weekly Happiness posts recently, so there’s a bit of catch up from Christmas and New Year’s photos and moments, so bare with me! However, one non-holiday related thing that happened very recently that is probably my favorite thing is that my dad got a cat!

Her name is Bella! She is extremely teeny and less than a year old. Very shy but also cuddly. My dad is having a hard time not saying “he” and “Bug”, but he is a creature of habit if there ever was one and I am very happy that there is new love in his home.

Bug is never gone. He is everywhere. He changed my dad forever. And me. And we miss him terribly. But I am so grateful that there is space for a new love in his heart. And I’m so grateful for all of you who sent letters and emails with your sympathies and art. They remain up to this day.

I told my dad he can love and grieve Bug as much as he wants and also love Bella, too. The way he loves me and my brother. Love is an ocean, overflowing, unconditional, and deep.

I’m looking forward to getting to know Bella better. See her picture below!

Here’s some recent blog posts you might have missed:

Here’s what I’ve been into lately…

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Pictures from last week:

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Meeting Bella for the first time!

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Creative Labs on New Year’s Eve

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Visiting Miracle On 34th Street, always magical

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The newest addition to the Baltimore madness; the sexy trumpet playing Grinch! — If anyone knows how to find this person online, I am VERY interested!

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Asking to pet this puppy dressed as Santa and their parent just handing them to me to hold

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Doing a Capricorn New Moon abundance spell with my moon babes

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Taking advantage of the free Pixalated photo booth in the Rotunda on New Year’s to show off my Roaring 20’s flapper fashion (click and swipe to see my sequins spin)

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Getting home earlier than expected on New Year’s Eve and deciding our night wasn’t over yet, walking out to the park to see the stars on the playground, and immediately seeing a fox!

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Doing a 2020 year spread! The first card was the theme of the year (Hanged Man – new perspective, releasing things that don’t serve me), second card was clarification of the theme (Ace Of Pentacles – financial abundance) and January was Knight of Swords (ambition/action)

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My dad opening up his presents wearing his cat mask and new snow scraper

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Joe winning me a gnome duck in the claw machine on the first try (Ducks Are So Hot Right Now)

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Taking myself on a walk even when I didn’t feel like it, and this dog being out and very cute

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Duck ornaments

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Altar at Crystals, Candles, & Cauldrons

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Hampden Junque window display

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Our duck in a sleigh

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Doing Qigong with my moon babes for the Capricorn New Moon

Extra Sparkle: * Selling more planners than I expected to, and seeing people using them! If you have purchased one, PLEASE TELL ME so I can add you to my gratitude sticky note wall in my bedroom! * The feeling of knowing there’s a new episode of Jeff Goldblum and a jelly donut waiting for me * Using a gift card to get crystals for gifts and a butterfly wing cape for myself * Jenny bringing me a necklace made out of ducks (stay tuned) * Giving Maura a calendar of guys holding plants * A podcast about how our goals don’t owe us anything * Maura being the best at helping me undress * Freshly dyed hair, waxed eyebrows, and no black heads * Watching a documentary about Robin William’s life and then movies with him in them * Eating at Zataar (Ali Baba bread!) * Being okay with the fact that I didn’t get everything crossed off my end of the year to do list before the ball dropped * Sending videos back and forth to Maura of toys we got ourselves (she got a music box and I got a kaleidoscope just like the one I had when I was a kid) * Doing membership surprise package shopping in Aberdeen and the stores being so quiet, organized, and clean * Visiting Brad’s Light Show * When two completely different ways of doing something are both right * My Zoltar fortune for the new year * Joe telling me I should wear my fancy yellow hats more this year * Sending out gratitude texts to my favorites before I left for New Year’s Eve partying * Getting back to physical journaling instead of just digital * Light up hair extensions * Writing a poem for the first time in a very long time * Maura bringing me a falafel and then us taking turns twinkling chimes over each other bodies that correspond to the different elements * Spoonfuls of Nutella * Praying to the universe and telling her I’m open to surprises * Finally wearing the new work out clothes I got forever ago * Getting my inbox down from 250 to around 160

Upcoming Unusual Holidays

8 – Bubble Bath Day
8 – I Am A Mentor Day
8 – Winter Skin Relief Day
9 – Balloon Ascension Day
10 – Cut Your Energy Costs Day
10 – Full Moon In Cancer
11 – Learn Your Name In Morse Code Day
11 – Vision Board Day
12 – Hot Tea Day
12 – Kiss A Ginger Day
12 – No Pants Subway Ride
13 – Rubber Ducky Day
13 – Make Your Dreams Come True Day
13 – Sticker Day
13 – Clean Off Your Desk Day
14 – Kite Day
14 – Dress Up Your Pet Day
14 – Poetry At Work Day
15 – Bagel Day

What’s on your happiness list this week?