Hi hi hi! How’s it going? This week is flying by because I’m so busy. Did you see the event Betsy and I hosted on Sunday? Self love meets kindness meets creativity guerrilla style! Don’t forget this is the Month Of Self Love! I’m really enjoying seeing your photos using the #UncustomarySelfLove hashtag on Instagram!

Today I’m having a photoshoot then hanging out with Joe, Friday is a coven movie night, and Saturday I leave for Philly for PEX’s Heartburn event. I’ll get back Sunday evening, hopefully after seeing Deadpool in the theater! What are your plans for this week?

Here are some things on my happiness list this week:

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1. Bags of colored rhinestones

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2. Vacant malls that look like the set of a zombie movie

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3. Partying too hard on Mardi Gras

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4. Red shoe installation at Loring Cornish’s shop

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5. Mailing out my valentines

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6. This sign

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7. Photobooth with Joe at the spa

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8. Moons on the ceiling

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9. Climbing the stairway (to heaven?)

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10. This denim doggy and her daddy

[Extra Sparkle] * Quoting Charlie Kelly’s spaghetti lines when I was at the spa * Getting nice messages from readers * Being recognized on the street twice * Peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with raspberry jelly * Bug jumping on his favorite swivel chair and spinning around * Being in The Baltimore Sun * Sending promo postcards for my book * Drinks at Dogwatch Tavern * Baristas with neon hair * Sean doing the Arrested Development “Shoot me!” line with his baby * Sonic breakfast burrito * Crying my eyes out (cathartic) * Charlotte’s birthday party for her dog, Indy * A group of guys going shopping for a dog party * Mac and cheese balls * Learning about the different types of auras * Rainbow ceiling fan at Darian’s * Joe being super sweet

What’s on your happiness list this week?


You Are So Very Beautiful: Guerrilla Kindness | Uncustomary

After I included a “craftivsm” hashtag on an Instagram photo, Betsy contacted me. She had this idea for a guerrilla art style craftivism event where we would make and collect positive affirmations from all over the world to spread around a city. We created the call for submissions online and watched the most beautiful and creative pieces of art pour into our PO boxes.

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Betsy and I

The idea was to combine self love, kindness, and creativity. Positive affirmations are a great way to boost your self esteem and feelings of self worth, and as Betsy said, if you’re stitching an affirmation it takes a bit of time and you are forced to concentrate on the words. It becomes kind of imprinted in your mind, and then the person who finds the affirmation on the street can benefit from it also. Win win!

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Photo Credit: Cynthia Combs

On February 7th, Betsy drove all the way to Baltimore from her home in North Carolina. I met her in person for the first time as locals who heard about the event began to trickle into our meeting place of the quirky and quaint Cafe Latte’ Da in Fells Point. We sat on their comfy couches as we created some last minute pieces and answered questions for the reporter from The Baltimore Sun who followed us around for the day.

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Just some of our submissions

After collecting the hundreds of submissions and taking some photos, we hit the streets! We gave things to strangers and left them in places for future passersby to find. After about an hour, we could see the tangible evidence of our efforts because people were carrying our affirmations and balloons (made by April’s Twisted Entertainment) around. Color started to overtake the wintery streets!

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Photo Credit: Cynthia Combs

Fells Point is a great neighborhood for doing these kinds of events because of the way the space is set up. It ended up being perfectly timed because that weekend there were some really tragic events in the area. Everywhere always needs morale, but kindness tends to be slightly more appreciated after unfortunate events.

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Photo Credit: Noemi Naval

Our event was covered on Page 2 of The Baltimore Sun on February 8th. The reporter talked about how some of our efforts weren’t well received, but I want to explain that a little more. With any type of random act of kindness or guerrilla art, you should approach the act the same way you approach giving a gift: without expectation. Once the gift leaves your hand, it’s not yours anymore. It would be great if someone said thank you or smiled back at you, but you can’t control their reaction and you don’t need to.

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As the reporter followed me around, he witnessed me placing an affirmation into a musician’s bucket that said “You Rock!” He immediately stopped playing, picked it out of the bucket and threw it on the ground saying, “It’s not money, I don’t want it”. That was probably the most negative reaction we had all day, and that doesn’t negate any of the overwhelming positive ones we had! You never know what’s going on in someone’s life that makes them react the way they do. All you can do is continue being nice. There’s actually a whole lesson on spreading kindness in my Self Love E-course.

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I want to thank everyone who sent in affirmations, who promoted the event, who came out to pass things out, and who received the gifts with grace. The response to our event was so great, two other cities decided to host one as well! Vancouver celebrated in sync with us on Sunday, but you can still send submissions to the London event by February 13th if you missed out! See details here.

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Photo Credit: Cynthia Combs

You can check out the online version of The Baltimore Sun article here, and see the entire album of photos that were taken here. And if you want to see things on social media, the official hashtag is #YASVB.

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Photo Credit: Cynthia Combs

Don’t forget that February 14-20th is Random Acts Of Kindness Week and February 17th is National Random Acts Of Kindness Day! What RAOKs will you do to celebrate? Looking for ideas? Check out this cool Random Acts Of Kindness Generator!


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What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness was originally instilled in Buddhism practices, and in the late 70’s, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn founded Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, bringing the concepts to the western world. He has been instrumental in bringing mindfulness into modern society.

Dr. Kabat-Zinn defines mindfulness as, “paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally, to the unfolding of experience moment to moment”. I’d like to add that mindfulness is about accepting your reality, not worrying on the past or future, and being aware and focused on the present moment. Mindfulness is active and passive. You choose to be focused on the present, but you allow your current experience to “just be” without judgment.

Being mindless means you’re busy, doing things without thinking or on “autopilot”, and just going through the motions which we all know is very easy to resort to without a second thought. Think about how many times you’ve pulled into your driveway without remembering the drive there. That’s being mindless. Mindful driving would be focusing on the details o your driving experience, however mundane they may feel.

Why Should You Practice Mindfulness?

Practicing mindfulness has many benefits, including reduced levels of stress, anxiety, chronic pain, and blood pressure. It improves your relationships, compassion, ability to focus, sleep patterns, and life appreciation. It increases the density of gray matter in your brain in the area related to memory, emotions, and learning, and creates a shift in the left frontal brain activity that deals with resilience. So many benefits!

Mindfulness is a really important part of continuing your journey of self love, and it can be done in many ways. For an example, I’d like to focus on eating. Mindful eating promotes healthy eating and can be coorelated with a decrease in obesity and over-eating. You’ll find an overall improved level of satisfcation in your meal and physiological digestive processes. So how do you do it?

11 Ways To Practice Mindful Eating:

+ Chew twenty times before swallowing
+ Try to figure out what the ingredients are in your food just by taste
+ Play with your food, make faces, feel the textures
+ Sit down at a table, not in front of a TV, in your car, or over the sink
+ Turn off media (like your phone) and external stimulus so it’s easier to focus– no multi-tasking!
+ Appreciate the aesthetics of your meal, but refrain from sharing a photo of it on Instagram
+ Try eating (or at least chewing) with your eyes closed
+ Use utensils with your non-dominant hand
+ Don’t eat out of a bag
+ Put your utensils down between bites
+ Say thank you for your food (it doesn’t need to be a religious type “grace”, just an acknowledgment that you’re grateful for being able to have this food)

These kinds of techniques can honestly be applied to any activity. Speaking of activities, I’ve made a list of 10 ways you can practice mindfulness. Download it for free below!

10 Mindfulness Activities!

I dedicate an entire lesson to mindfulness in my e-course, Self Love: The Key To Happiness, which you can get for $14 off all month long.

Photo Credit: Victoria Gloria Photography


Hello my loves! I know there’s a lot going on right now, so I want to break all the news down in terms of your current opportunities on Uncustomary!

You can…

1) Enter the giveaway to win a FREE enrollment to my e-course on self love.

2) Join in the Month Of Self Love Challenge for a chance to win a $100 coupon for my e-course on self love.

3) Pre-order my book, This Is About You, for a free audio book and $3 discount using “SPARKLE” at checkout

4) Get yourself my e-course, Self Love: The Key To Happiness for $14 off all month long with “MONTHOFLOVE”!

5) Meet me in person in Baltimore on Sunday for the You Are So Very Beautiful Guerrilla Art drop.

6) Get yourself a one-of-a-kind Bubble Wrap painted postcard.

Here are some things on my happiness list this week:

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1. Gorgeous decorated ceiling at the Paper Moon Diner

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2. Close ups of stage lighting

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3. Pastel building fronts

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4. Terrible Coven photos

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5. The screen that popped up at intermission at Lazerdong

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6. Painted vanities in bathrooms

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7. Prepping my Valentine snail mail

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8. This amazing snow castle April built

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9. Rainbow boa and tiara Janice mailed me

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10. Elaborate insect installations

[Extra Sparkle] * Seeing a guy buy extra sensitive condoms, tobacco chew, and two Pepsi’s (romance isn’t dead) * Having wavy hair * Running into Eric * A dog being in a rock opera * The amazing technology of Uber, Lyft, etc. * Updating my iPod with new music * Being asked to do a podcast * Watching Ashley try to eat a sandwich the size of a football * Chris Pratt reminding everyone that there is no Plan B * Having a party involving 90’s tattoo chokers, wine, and Jock Jams * Sequined shorts * Taking a nap with my Blorg * Getting my phone fixed * Starting to do yoga at home * Booking our hotel for Heartburn * Mailing letters * Changing calendars over to February * Surviving Snowzilla * Alanis Morissette * Orange soda and tequila * Watching Mystery Men * Lacrosse skills paying off when it was time to shovel

What’s on your happiness list this week?


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