Why I Will Never Go To My High School Reunion - Uncustomary Art

This year marks the 10th and 15th anniversaries of high school graduation for my best friend and my boyfriend, and because of that I’ve been thinking and talking a lot about the reunions that coincide with these milestones.

Besides the delight I get from watching Romy and Michelle reciting the formula for Post-It Note adhesive and dancing ever so poetically to Cyndi Lauper, I’ve never had the desire to attend a high school reunion. And that includes when I was writing nostalgia-filled novels in my classmates yearbooks that last week at Old Mill High. I remembered people jokingly saying things like, “See you at the reunion!”, and I just smiled and laughed. I wouldn’t be RSVPing “yes” to that.

Three reasons why I will never go to my high school reunion:

1. Despite high school being a drastically different experience for all of us, we need to move on afterwards.

Some people can’t look back on high school without feeling twinges of pain and embarrassment. Some people, for a lack of a better term “peaked” in high school, and want to visit that time again. It doesn’t matter what your opinion of those four years was, you’re an adult now, and it’s time to move on. What happened there definitely did shape you as a human, but it doesn’t define you. I’m going to take the experiences I gained and learned from as a teenager and apply them to life as I already do. There’s no need for us to take a step backward.

Why I Will Never Go To My High School Reunion - Uncustomary Art

2. I’ve had the opportunity (for years) to see these people I’m claiming to miss.

It’s likely you’re not terribly close with many people from high school over ten years later.Out of my good friends, only three of them are from that time in my life, and I’ve even lost touch with people I became friends with in college. I’ve defined myself more and have met people with similar interests since then. I’ve expanded my social circle based on commonalities over the years, and I don’t need to feel like I need to reconnect with someone just because I lived within the same district as them when I was growing up.

(I considered the argument that there might be someone who fell off the map after high school. Maybe it’s someone you always wanted to say something to or just miss like crazy and haven’t been able to find them despite your efforts. Well, guess what? They probably wouldn’t come to a reunion.

And let’s not forget that even though you might get to see someone you really do like and fell out of touch with, there’s going to be dozens more people there you couldn’t even stand then.)

3. Facebook exists.

The main reasons people go to reunions are to A) Find out what people are up to (so you can judge them or just generally be nosy) and B) Brag about what you’re doing now. Well, here’s the deal: Facebook exists now. It’s been a thing for a while now, and it’s the ultimate tool for stalking and oversharing. Use that social media site to boast about your kids, new house, or fancy job. Use it to laugh at your ex’s new girlfriend’s haircut, or make baseless accusations about the frivilous spending of the former prom queen. Do it from the comfort of your living room in slippers instead of at a rented hall in uncomfortable spanks.

Why I Will Never Go To My High School Reunion - Uncustomary Art

Ultimately, remember the excitement you experienced after graduating (or dropping out). Hold onto that. Be your best adult self. The teenage version of you helped make you, but she’s back there now. Now it’s time to go dance under the stars.

Agree? Disagree? Tell me why or why you wouldn’t go to one of your high school reunions!


Random acts of kindness are extremely important to me. You really never know when you could be the restoration in someone’s faith in humanity. I try to do as many as possible. I make a point to not put my name on everything I leave out, or even take pictures of all my projects, just so I retain some of the level of anonymity that I feel is so unique and beautiful to RAOKs. But in the spirit of sharing, inspiration, and fun… here are some of the recent things I’ve tied to poles, slid under windshield wipers, and abandoned on benches.

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
paint a rainbow in this world

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
donut seeds

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
just add water (those capsules that turn into dinosaurs)

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
yarnbomb pocket with goodies inside

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
fortune floppy disks

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
windshield reminders

Random Acts Of Kindness - Uncustomary Art
glitter dinos

Which would you have been the most excited to find?


Sophie is the twenty-something beauty and book lover behind Nana Wintour, where you’ll find a healthy dose of beauty and books with the occasional daily life post thrown in for good measure. I did an interview with her you can find below!

Uncustomary Art Guest Post: Nana Wintour

1) What got you interested in blogging, and what makes you want to share parts of your life and advice with others?

When I was younger I’d made my own websites and had things like a Livejournal set up so I guess that’s where my first ‘blog’ experiences started. I only remembered that recently. I love writing and always felt so inspired by the other blogs I read, which at that time were predominantly fashion-centered. I wanted to be a part of that and share my voice with people. For me, sharing parts of my life+advice isn’t about the attention it brings to myself, it’s about sharing my experiences and things I’ve gone through. Even if it informs or helps just one person I feel satisfied.

Uncustomary Art Guest Post: Nana Wintour

2) What’s the biggest thing you’ve learned from blogging so far?

Don’t be afraid to share what you love. For the longest time I put off blogging about books because I thought it was silly and that nobody would be interested. Even if what you love is a little bit nerdy or niche, there will be somebody out there who is interested. You do you.

Uncustomary Art Guest Post: Nana Wintour

3) You’re a bit of an expert on fashion and beauty. Do you find clothing and make-up to be a way to enhance your self love?

Absolutely. Fashion and beauty should be an extension of yourself, not something to hide behind. In saying that, when we’re wearing a gorgeous outfit we love, or a staple pink lipstick, we feel amazing. If you love dramatic makeup and it makes you feel amazing, wear it. For me, dressing up and doing my makeup is about making myself happy. It makes me feel more confident too.

Uncustomary Art Guest Post: Nana Wintour

4) Reading is a big part of your life. Is it something that you’ve always enjoyed? Do you have any recommendations for people who would love to start checking off books on their To Read list, but just can’t seem to start?

Reading is definitely something that I have always enjoyed. Even from an early age I was often surrounded by books. People will tell me that they love reading but are just too busy to do so. That’s really not true though-you just need to make time for it. I would much rather read something than binge-watch a TV series so it’s quite easy for me. Having a pile of books displayed where you can see them helps, and if you use public transport, ditch Candy Crush and read a book instead.

Uncustomary Art Guest Post: Nana Wintour

5) I’ve loved seeing your recent posts of 10 Things That Make Me Happy. What prompted you to take notice of the small pleasures in life, and has that helped your general mood and mental health?

Aww thank you. I’m so glad you liked that post. Last year I started a positivity journal, where I had to write down one positive thing at the end of every day. I begun that because I was feeling quite down at the time and I wanted to do something that would play a small part in making me feel better and ending the day on a good note. I’ll be honest, I’ve been slack with the journaling lately and have certainly noticed a difference. So yes, it really does have an impact on my general frame of mind.

Uncustomary Art Guest Post: Nana Wintour

6) What are some general things that make you happy?

Walks in the sunshine, glitter, new books, peonies, spending time with my closest friends, taking pictures, mornings in bed when it’s raining outside, blueberries.

Be sure to check out Sophie’s blog and Pinterest and tell her Uncustomary sent you!

All photos credited to Nana Wintour.


This week has been incredible. I met Joe’s family for the first time, hung out outside under the Cherry Blossoms all day Monday, and got caught up on a ton of mail. One of the weirdest things that happened to me, though, was one evening I was grabbing dinner at Johnny Rad’s.

Cristen, Joe, and I were waiting for Charles to join us and he was taking forever (because apparently you do not hang up the phone on a Jewish mother) and Joe stepped outside. Almost a minute after that, an Easter Bunny walked into the restaurant. I didn’t think anything of it, but I said, “Oh man, I am going to DANCE with that bunny!”, and Cristen got out her phone. The bunny said hi to the tables at the front of the restaurant and then made its way towards me, which is when I was handed an envelope.

I opened it up and the note card inside said “I really enjoyed you sitting on my lap at Bass Pro Shop last week, and I wanted to see if you would continue the date with me tonight“. I said yes, completely flabbergasted. I thought that Joe was up to something, but then he walked back in, just as confused as I was. I followed the bunny outside, creeped out but ready for anything. It turns out it was April (I should have guessed), who just happens to have the exact same costume as the bunny from Bass Pro Shop, and was in cahoots with Cristen the whole evening to find out my whereabouts. My friends are super cool. (You guys should “like” her Facebook page if you haven’t yet. She deserves all the love.)

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
1. surprise visits from the Easter Bunny

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
2. how beautiful nature’s patterns are

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
3. my nails against Joe’s new leggings

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
4. people-watching tourists

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
5. gorgeous views on the Tidal Basin

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
6. dressing for the occasion

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
7. cheap thrill rides at the arcade

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
8. twinkle lighting

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
9. puppies on walks on gorgeous days

10 Things Making Me Happy | Uncustomary Art
10. Joe’s niece letting me use her awesome bubble gun

Don’t forget to mail Charles your questions! And please share what’s on your happy list in the comments below. I really want to know.

Photo Credit: 1. Cristen Hoyt; 2. Melissa Esposito


Recently, I shared my general “go-to” outfit, but I didn’t really touch on accessories. Wearing fun jewelry, nail polish, or hair pieces can really make me feel even fancier than I am! (And we all know I’m pretty fancy!) The main things I focus on in addition to clothes and shoes are rings and hair bows, but having brightly manicured fingernails, bold purses, and sparkly eye make-up can be massive confidence boosters.

Fun accessories are also one of the main conversation starters for strangers to come up to me. Most of the time, I’m doing something strange in public and it can be kind of daunting or intimidating to approach a person you don’t know who is passing out miniature umbrellas or telling people their fortune. But for whatever reason, people feel a lot more comfortable approaching me when I have something weird on my person. It’s a great ice-breaker to say that you like someone’s eye shadow, and then we can have an actual conversation!

People ask me where I get my accessories all the time. I’ve never had a job that was super lucrative. I worked at a non-profit and then I started my own business, so I’m not exactly rolling in dough. I look for cheap options like thrift stores, trades, and online websites that have adorable things and aren’t totally price-gauging you! One of those places is Apparel Candy.

Accessorize For Cheap | Apparel Candy
I put together some of my favorite pieces from their site right now in the mood board above, and while they don’t have the widest selection of clothing, their accessory game is pretty on point. That’s not to say that their wholesale clothing is nonexistent, though! They even have plus sizes. And everything is so cheap! Those star rings above are only 75 cents each. Seriously.

There’s tons of nail polishes, hair bows, rings, necklaces, eye shadows, clutches, and sunglasses. If you don’t need a prescription for your sunglasses or can wear contacts, sunglasses are a pretty bad ass accessory. Zero to gangster in .5 seconds, man. Apparel Candy has a ton of options for sunglasses, like their Wholesale Wayfarer collection plus vintage and novelty selections.

What’s your favorite accessory?


It’s been a while since I’ve shared what’s been going in my art journal. I’ve since moved onto a new book that I received for backing a Kickstarter a while back. It’s called a Da Vinci Notebook, and its pages are made entirely of stone. I wanted to try it out since it was a completely blank book– no lines, no cover– and I actually really ended up liking it. The pages are super strong and smooth. I’m liking pasting my clippings into it.

Art Journal | Uncustomary Art

Art Journal | Uncustomary Art

Art Journal | Uncustomary Art

Art Journal | Uncustomary Art

Art Journal | Uncustomary Art

I’ve been into the ideas of things I’ve never done lately. Like pet a hedgehog or swallowed a knife. It’s interesting how there are things in life we’ve already done, things we’re dying to do, things we’d probably try if given the opportunity, and things we’ll never do. That’s life in a nutshell, man.

What have you never done?

Art Journal | Uncustomary Art

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that art journaling is still a part of my life, even if I’m not posting evidence every week. It’s still a great medium to work in, and I’m glad for anyone who participates in it as a form of expression or as a hobby in general.

Go out and sing your heartsong today, baby girl. Just like this guy.


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