For When You Feel Like You’ll Never Be Happy Again

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There are times in life when it’s hard to look on the bright side or remember that things are always changing. Whether you’ve been through a bad breakup, had disappointing career news or you simply feel stuck in a rut, it can be hard to see a way through the sadness and frustration. However, there are ways to nurture yourself, even when things seem bleak. 

Although getting motivated or being proactive can seem like an uphill battle when you’re in a spiral of despair, you don’t have to embrace major life changes right now. Instead, these small yet effective steps will help you to move forward when you feel like you’ll never be happy again:

Be Kind to Yourself

We tend to be far harsher to ourselves than we are to anyone else, which rarely has a positive impact on our mood or well-being. Take the time to consciously notice every time you think or say something negative about yourself and you’ll be surprised at just tough on yourself you are. 

Once you’re aware of negative self-talk, you can begin to make changes to the way you evaluate your efforts, achievements, and accomplishments. Imagining yourself talking to a friend or family member, instead of yourself, can be a good place to start. You’ll show yourself the same level of kindness and compassion that you show to others and, by doing so, you can begin to change the way you feel. 

Go for a Health Checkup

Although life events and circumstances can leave you feeling down, underlying health conditions can also have a major impact on your mood, outlook, and energy levels. Unbalanced hormones could leave you battling with anxiety, for example, while a thyroid disorder could lead to fatigue and low moods. Low iron levels can also lead to significant feelings of depression, as can many other common, and often easy to treat, health issues.

If you’ve noticed a change in your outlook or you don’t seem to be able to get yourself out of a rut, it’s well worth making an appointment with your doctor. They’ll be able to run tests to determine whether any underlying conditions could be contributing to your feelings and refer you for additional help if you’d like it. Then, it’s just a matter of taking your medication and doing some of the other things in this post to get your mood back to where you would like it to be.

Spend Time Outdoors

When you’re not feeling your best, it’s tempting to spend more time indoors, but this isn’t always the most effective way to feel better. Spending time outdoors can increase your vitamin D levels while being amongst nature is known to have a positive effect on mood. Whether you go for a hike or simply spend some time sitting in the garden, slap on some sunscreen and let the great outdoors work its magic.

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Declutter your space

If you’re the kind of person who lives in chaos with a lot of mess and clutter around you, the simple act of cleaning up, organizing your stuff, and putting some order back into your life can really make a huge amount of difference to your mood, It’s a simple project to complete. But it will make you feel just as satisfied as doing something bigger, and because your space is less cluttered, your mind is likely to be less cluttered too. When you can relax and be peaceful, that is when happiness can find you.

Talk to Someone

Talking to someone about your feelings or issues in your life can be a great way to access the support you need. Furthermore, when you’re able to talk to someone in confidence, you can often find solutions that have previously eluded you. 

While confiding in family and friends can be beneficial, talking to a therapist can be even better. When you meet with professional psychiatrists and psychotherapists, like the team at sunnysideclinic.com.au, you can determine what type of treatment will be most effective for you. By learning new techniques, you can manage your emotions more effectively and begin to see a bright future ahead. 

Try to Be Social

When you’re filled with despair or struggling to get through the day, the last thing you want to do is attend social events or pretend to be happy for the sake of other people. However, isolating yourself can actually exacerbate your feelings, rather than help them. If you feel able to, try and maintain the relationships you have by staying in contact with friends and family members. Even regular video calls, emails, or instant messages can be a great way to be social when you’re not feeling particularly fun or lively. 

Meditate

Meditation can truly transform your life. A lot of people are very skeptical of its ability to improve mental wellbeing, but it really can work. Basically, when you learn to meditate, you learn how to give yourself space from all of those nagging negative thoughts that are constantly dragging you down. Not only do you get a bit of peace from them, but you actually learn how to watch them ignore them, and then let them go, which means that you can take back control and stop letting your mind make you feel so down.

Take Back Control of Your Life

When you can’t envision yourself ever being happy again, it’s easy to assume there’s no point in trying to make positive changes in your life. By making small modifications to your routine, however, you can lay the foundations for a more positive outlook, even if you’re not quite there yet. 

From taking a short walk every day to spending 10 minutes meditating, there are a variety of small goals you can set yourself to add structure to your day and enhance your well-being. As you begin to incorporate more healthy habits into your day-to-day routine and feel the benefit they’re having on you, you’ll feel more in control, more powerful, and infinitely more hopeful. 

In Columbia, Maryland, there’s a former grocery store that has been transformed into a department store for mythical creatures, time travelers, and intergalactic tourists.

It’s called DoodleHATCH.

You can groom a unicorn, visit an intergalactic space station, climb onto a giant’s bed, meet guinea pigs, explore an artist’s studio, and discover approximately a million other things that somebody actually sat down and made.

It’s a nonprofit interactive art museum, a community project, an educational resource, and one of my favorite places I’ve ever discovered.

And it could be demolished as part of a proposed redevelopment of the Long Reach Village Center.

But there’s still an opportunity to help.

You don’t need to donate money. You don’t need to live in Maryland. And you don’t need to know anything about zoning laws.

You can start by writing an email.

🚨 Here's what's happening

Developer Columbia Concepts has proposed redeveloping the Long Reach Village Center in Columbia, Maryland.

The proposal would replace existing buildings with new housing, recreational facilities, and other development.

Unfortunately, that puts a whole collection of existing community resources at risk of being demolished, including:

  • DoodleHATCH Interactive Art Museum
  • Maryland Fashion Institute
  • A makerspace used for community education
  • Local restaurants, shops, and service businesses
  • Early childhood education and community programs
  • A 140-foot-long mural created by approximately 100 community members

This isn’t just about losing a fabulous museum. It’s about losing an entire collection of places that people have built, supported, and relied on.

And there’s another possibility!

🌈 Meet The REALM

Lee Andersen, the founder of DoodleHATCH, and her nonprofit ManneqART want to preserve the existing community resources and transform the village center into an arts and culture destination called The REALM.

Imagine a place where artists have studios, children have room to explore, students can learn creative skills, people can attend performances, and local businesses continue serving their neighbors.

There are plans for a performing arts space, more opportunities for artists, and a Witches Kitchen that might serve you a horrible-disgusting breakfast.

Which, personally, I think sounds promising.

The people behind DoodleHATCH are gathering support to oppose the developer’s zoning proposal and advocate for The REALM.

And they’d love your help.

💌 How to help in about two minutes

If you live in Howard County, Maryland

If you’re 18 or older, DoodleHATCH is asking eligible county residents to visit the museum and sign their petition in person.

📍DoodleHATCH Interactive Art Museum

8775 Cloudleap Court, Unit 101
Columbia, MD 21045

⏱️ Museum hours: Friday–Sunday, 10 AM–5 PM.

And while you’re there, I highly recommend exploring the museum. Bring someone who needs a reminder that being an adult doesn’t mean you have to stop enjoying ridiculous things.

If you don't live in Howard County

You can still help!

DoodleHATCH is collecting emails from people who oppose the proposed Columbia Concepts redevelopment and support preserving the existing arts and community resources through The REALM.

Send your email to: Lilou@DoodleHATCH.com

Suggested subject: Support The REALM | Oppose Columbia Concepts Zoning Proposal ZB 1132M

You can write your own message or use one of the templates below.

You don’t need to write an essay. A short, genuine message explaining what you support and why is enough to participate in this email campaign.

✍️ What should your email say?

To make your position clear, include these three things:

1. Say what you’re opposing.

State that you oppose the proposed Columbia Concepts redevelopment and zoning amendment for the Long Reach Village Center, case ZB 1132M.

2. Say what you’re supporting.

Express your support for preserving DoodleHATCH, the Maryland Fashion Institute, existing community resources, and the proposed arts and culture center called The REALM.

3. Explain why you care.

This is the part that makes your email yours.

Maybe you’ve visited DoodleHATCH. Maybe you’re a parent who wants more creative places for children. Maybe you’re an artist, an educator, or someone who thinks it’s important to protect the few spaces where people can explore and make things without needing to buy something.

Maybe you live across the country and just learned that there’s a department store for mythical creatures in Maryland, and you think the world would be a little less interesting without it.

That’s a perfectly good reason to care.

💌 Email templates you can copy

Option 1: Short, simple, and effective

Subject: Support The REALM | Oppose ZB 1132M

Hello,

I’m writing to express my opposition to the proposed Columbia Concepts zoning amendment and redevelopment of the Long Reach Village Center (ZB 1132M).

I support preserving DoodleHATCH, the Maryland Fashion Institute, and the existing community services and small businesses, as well as the proposal to create The REALM arts and culture center.

Creative and educational spaces like these provide valuable opportunities for families, artists, students, and the wider community. I believe they deserve to be protected.

Please include my email with the messages of support being collected for DoodleHATCH and The REALM.

Thank you,

[Your Name]
[Your City/State]

Option 2: For artists, creatives, and fellow merriment makers

Subject: Please Protect DoodleHATCH and Support The REALM

Hello,

I’m writing in opposition to Columbia Concepts’ proposed redevelopment and zoning amendment for the Long Reach Village Center (ZB 1132M), and in support of The REALM.

I believe communities need places where creativity, imagination, and play are actively encouraged.

DoodleHATCH is an extraordinary example of what can happen when artists and community members are given room to create something that doesn’t fit into an ordinary commercial space.

Places like this are rare. They encourage people of all ages to experiment, learn, explore, and connect with one another.

I support preserving DoodleHATCH, the Maryland Fashion Institute, the existing community resources, and the vision for The REALM.

Thank you for collecting these messages and advocating for the creative community.

[Your Name]
[Your City/State]

Option 3: For people who've visited DoodleHATCH

Subject: Please Save DoodleHATCH | Oppose ZB 1132M

Hello,

I’m writing to express my opposition to the proposed Columbia Concepts redevelopment and zoning amendment for the Long Reach Village Center (ZB 1132M), and my support for The REALM.

I’ve personally visited DoodleHATCH, and I want to share why I believe it’s worth preserving.

[Write two or three sentences about your experience. What did you see? Who did you bring? What surprised you? What made you want to return?]

DoodleHATCH is more than a collection of exhibits. It’s a place where creativity is something people can actively participate in, and I believe losing it would be a tremendous loss to the community.

I support preserving the museum, the Maryland Fashion Institute, and the other existing community resources through the proposed arts and culture center, The REALM.

Please include my email with the messages of support you’re collecting.

Thank you,

[Your Name]
[Your City/State]

A few tips before you hit send

DO:

  • Use your real name.

  • Include your city and state so organizers can understand where support is coming from.

  • Clearly identify the redevelopment proposal you’re opposing.

  • Specifically mention your support for The REALM.

  • Add a personal sentence or two if you can.

  • Be respectful, even if you’re frustrated.

  • Share this page with other people who might want to help.

DON’T:

  • Pretend to be a Howard County resident if you’re not.

  • Claim to have visited DoodleHATCH if you haven’t.

  • Make up experiences or information.

  • Send threatening, insulting, or harassing messages.

  • Assume your email is the same thing as signing the official petition.

  • Worry about making your message sound impressive. Clear and genuine is better than elaborate.

💌 The Save DoodleHATCH Email Machine

A few clicks, a little personality, and an email that helps support DoodleHATCH and The REALM. No account or signup required.

What's your connection to DoodleHATCH?
Why does protecting places like this matter to you?
✨ Your email preview
To: Lilou@DoodleHATCH.com
Subject:

Your information stays in your browser until you choose to copy or open the message. The email does not send automatically. Emails support DoodleHATCH's advocacy campaign; they are not the same as official petition signatures or zoning testimony. Please review the message before sending.

🐹 Wait. What exactly is DoodleHATCH?

I’m so glad you asked.

DoodleHATCH is an interactive art museum in Columbia, Maryland, created by artist, designer, and professional generator of wildly ambitious ideas, Lee Andersen.

The museum is designed as a pretend department store for mythological creatures, time travelers, and galactic tourists.

There are dozens of installations, and unlike most museums, you’re encouraged to touch things, explore, and participate.

There’s also an artist’s studio full of fabric and handmade garments, workshops, special events, birthday parties, free books, and opportunities for local artists to share their work.

The museum welcomes families and children, but adults are absolutely allowed to enjoy themselves, too.

And the woman behind it has spent decades bringing creativity into the community through fashion, festivals, education, and public art.

I discovered DoodleHATCH in 2020 and loved it so much that I started volunteering.

I’ve been back multiple times, and there are still things I haven’t seen.

That’s part of what makes it special. You can keep discovering things because people keep creating them.

You don't have to live near DoodleHATCH to care about it.

There are Merriment Makers everywhere.

People turning empty buildings into art spaces. People organizing parades. People teaching kids how to sew, paint, dance, or build things. People putting enormous amounts of time into projects that make their communities more interesting.

Sometimes they’re running nonprofits. Sometimes they’re working out of their garages. Sometimes they’re making something weird in a strip mall that you might drive past a hundred times without realizing what’s inside.

I hope you’ll help protect DoodleHATCH.

And I hope you’ll look around your own community, too. Visit the strange little museum. Go to the local art show. Find the person who makes giant puppets or organizes an absurd annual festival. Spend your money at the independent shop with the handmade things.

There are people everywhere creating reasons for us to be curious about being alive.

I’d like them to be able to keep doing that.

Help save DoodleHATCH. Help protect The REALM. Help keep the world interesting.

💌 Email: Lilou@DoodleHATCH.com

🌈 Visit: DoodleHATCH.com

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