50 Ways To Celebrate Being Single

by | Feb 11, 2020 | Self-Love | 1 comment

Around this time of year, I get a lot of e-mails from people who are disheartened by the overwhelming sea of hearts and pressure of romance. February is a month where we are pressured to be in a “perfect” romantic relationship. We start to judge and evaluate the relationships we’re in, and we start to berate ourselves for not being in one. We think about past relationships or wonder why there haven’t been any past relationships. It’s this whole recipe for disaster, cultivated by social norms, pressure, and guilt.

I wanted to come up with a list of ways you could say hell yes being single is awesome and here’s why! But it was actually harder than I thought, and for a surprising reason. As I was writing, my natural inclination was to write things like eat whatever you want, go out whenever you want, and relish in the fact that you don’t have to check in with anyone! But that’s such ridiculously learned behavior. The reality is we should be as free in a relationship as we are as a single person. Obviously there are logistical limitations that come when involving a second person to anything, but if you’re having to compromise what you’re eating, watching, wearing, and exploring then you might not actually be in a great relationship.

So this list is a cross between celebrating being single and general self-love. Because, quite honestly, the two go hand-in-hand. Remember that loving yourself is number one. That exists before and above all else. Whether you have a partner(s) or not. Whether it’s February or not. Self-love will keep you strong.

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50 Ways To Celebrate Being Single

1. Sleep in the middle of the bed like a starfish
2. Say yes to something a past partner was hesitant to try
3. Go dancing (feel free to have some drinks first)
4. Take advantage of the networking tool at your disposal, and the ability to meet loads of people
5. Make a list of ways you have personal freedoms
6. Buy a new sex toy, like a tail butt plug, and treat yourself
7. Stay out all night and check in with no one
8. Take yourself on dates
9. Get one of these crazy pillows
10. Throw your gorgeous self into some already established single scenes
11. Buy yourself some flowers (bonus points if you have them delivered to you)
12. Check out all the badass celebrities who are currently single
13. Have a fancy dinner for your friends on your grandmother’s china
14. Flirt with everyone
15. Have a Parks And Rec Style Day full of a Galentine’s Gift Exchange and #TreatYoSelf Vibe
16. Host a party with a bunch of single people
17. Do something new and fun with your hair, make-up, or wardrobe
18. Tell yourself you’re beautiful (put it on your phone background)
19. Go speed dating (if only to test out your accents)
20. Hire a photographer for a self-esteem boosting photoshoot
21. Dedicate an entire date off work to masturbating
22. Take a spontaneous road trip alone
23. Make a bunch of dating profiles and have safe no-strings-attached sex
24. Make fun of absurd Tinder profiles (and send me screenshots of the really ridiculous ones)
25. Explore a fetish you were scared to try

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26. Sleep in as long as you want
27. Try not having sex for a specific period of time and see how your body feels as a personal experiment
28. Take a burlesque class
29. Remember that you only ever have to answer to yourself
30. Experiment with growing out or removing various areas of body hair
31. Play dress up every day
32. Adjust the thermostat to exactly what you want
33. Try a new art form you’ve been hesitant to test out
34. Watch all the shitty Netflix shows you want without compromise
35. Ignore your phone completely
36. Get yourself a baller ass ring and wear it on your left ring finger — marry yourself
37. Take a pole dancing class
38. Splurge on pedicures, manicures, facials, etc. spa treatments
39. Eat the foods you shyed away from because your ex wasn’t a fan
40. Compliment everyone and anyone you are inclined to, even if it’s just “You’re cute!”
41. Relish in not having to deal with in-laws
42. Practice commitment with different areas of your life and see what feels right
43. Have more time to work on your personal-development
44. Don’t have to wait for anyone to buy you anything
45. Know it’s better to be with yourself than to be with the wrong person
46. Eat tons of foods that give you bad breath
47. Decorate your living space to your heart’s aesthetic, without compromise
48. You don’t have to save the last slice of pie or hot water for the next shower
49. You don’t have to be self-conscious of your snoring
50. Everything is up to you

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In Columbia, Maryland, there’s a former grocery store that has been transformed into a department store for mythical creatures, time travelers, and intergalactic tourists.

It’s called DoodleHATCH.

You can groom a unicorn, visit an intergalactic space station, climb onto a giant’s bed, meet guinea pigs, explore an artist’s studio, and discover approximately a million other things that somebody actually sat down and made.

It’s a nonprofit interactive art museum, a community project, an educational resource, and one of my favorite places I’ve ever discovered.

And it could be demolished as part of a proposed redevelopment of the Long Reach Village Center.

But there’s still an opportunity to help.

You don’t need to donate money. You don’t need to live in Maryland. And you don’t need to know anything about zoning laws.

You can start by writing an email.

🚨 Here's what's happening

Developer Columbia Concepts has proposed redeveloping the Long Reach Village Center in Columbia, Maryland.

The proposal would replace existing buildings with new housing, recreational facilities, and other development.

Unfortunately, that puts a whole collection of existing community resources at risk of being demolished, including:

  • DoodleHATCH Interactive Art Museum
  • Maryland Fashion Institute
  • A makerspace used for community education
  • Local restaurants, shops, and service businesses
  • Early childhood education and community programs
  • A 140-foot-long mural created by approximately 100 community members

This isn’t just about losing a fabulous museum. It’s about losing an entire collection of places that people have built, supported, and relied on.

And there’s another possibility!

🌈 Meet The REALM

Lee Andersen, the founder of DoodleHATCH, and her nonprofit ManneqART want to preserve the existing community resources and transform the village center into an arts and culture destination called The REALM.

Imagine a place where artists have studios, children have room to explore, students can learn creative skills, people can attend performances, and local businesses continue serving their neighbors.

There are plans for a performing arts space, more opportunities for artists, and a Witches Kitchen that might serve you a horrible-disgusting breakfast.

Which, personally, I think sounds promising.

The people behind DoodleHATCH are gathering support to oppose the developer’s zoning proposal and advocate for The REALM.

And they’d love your help.

💌 How to help in about two minutes

If you live in Howard County, Maryland

If you’re 18 or older, DoodleHATCH is asking eligible county residents to visit the museum and sign their petition in person.

📍DoodleHATCH Interactive Art Museum

8775 Cloudleap Court, Unit 101
Columbia, MD 21045

⏱️ Museum hours: Friday–Sunday, 10 AM–5 PM.

And while you’re there, I highly recommend exploring the museum. Bring someone who needs a reminder that being an adult doesn’t mean you have to stop enjoying ridiculous things.

If you don't live in Howard County

You can still help!

DoodleHATCH is collecting emails from people who oppose the proposed Columbia Concepts redevelopment and support preserving the existing arts and community resources through The REALM.

Send your email to: Lilou@DoodleHATCH.com

Suggested subject: Support The REALM | Oppose Columbia Concepts Zoning Proposal ZB 1132M

You can write your own message or use one of the templates below.

You don’t need to write an essay. A short, genuine message explaining what you support and why is enough to participate in this email campaign.

✍️ What should your email say?

To make your position clear, include these three things:

1. Say what you’re opposing.

State that you oppose the proposed Columbia Concepts redevelopment and zoning amendment for the Long Reach Village Center, case ZB 1132M.

2. Say what you’re supporting.

Express your support for preserving DoodleHATCH, the Maryland Fashion Institute, existing community resources, and the proposed arts and culture center called The REALM.

3. Explain why you care.

This is the part that makes your email yours.

Maybe you’ve visited DoodleHATCH. Maybe you’re a parent who wants more creative places for children. Maybe you’re an artist, an educator, or someone who thinks it’s important to protect the few spaces where people can explore and make things without needing to buy something.

Maybe you live across the country and just learned that there’s a department store for mythical creatures in Maryland, and you think the world would be a little less interesting without it.

That’s a perfectly good reason to care.

💌 Email templates you can copy

Option 1: Short, simple, and effective

Subject: Support The REALM | Oppose ZB 1132M

Hello,

I’m writing to express my opposition to the proposed Columbia Concepts zoning amendment and redevelopment of the Long Reach Village Center (ZB 1132M).

I support preserving DoodleHATCH, the Maryland Fashion Institute, and the existing community services and small businesses, as well as the proposal to create The REALM arts and culture center.

Creative and educational spaces like these provide valuable opportunities for families, artists, students, and the wider community. I believe they deserve to be protected.

Please include my email with the messages of support being collected for DoodleHATCH and The REALM.

Thank you,

[Your Name]
[Your City/State]

Option 2: For artists, creatives, and fellow merriment makers

Subject: Please Protect DoodleHATCH and Support The REALM

Hello,

I’m writing in opposition to Columbia Concepts’ proposed redevelopment and zoning amendment for the Long Reach Village Center (ZB 1132M), and in support of The REALM.

I believe communities need places where creativity, imagination, and play are actively encouraged.

DoodleHATCH is an extraordinary example of what can happen when artists and community members are given room to create something that doesn’t fit into an ordinary commercial space.

Places like this are rare. They encourage people of all ages to experiment, learn, explore, and connect with one another.

I support preserving DoodleHATCH, the Maryland Fashion Institute, the existing community resources, and the vision for The REALM.

Thank you for collecting these messages and advocating for the creative community.

[Your Name]
[Your City/State]

Option 3: For people who've visited DoodleHATCH

Subject: Please Save DoodleHATCH | Oppose ZB 1132M

Hello,

I’m writing to express my opposition to the proposed Columbia Concepts redevelopment and zoning amendment for the Long Reach Village Center (ZB 1132M), and my support for The REALM.

I’ve personally visited DoodleHATCH, and I want to share why I believe it’s worth preserving.

[Write two or three sentences about your experience. What did you see? Who did you bring? What surprised you? What made you want to return?]

DoodleHATCH is more than a collection of exhibits. It’s a place where creativity is something people can actively participate in, and I believe losing it would be a tremendous loss to the community.

I support preserving the museum, the Maryland Fashion Institute, and the other existing community resources through the proposed arts and culture center, The REALM.

Please include my email with the messages of support you’re collecting.

Thank you,

[Your Name]
[Your City/State]

A few tips before you hit send

DO:

  • Use your real name.

  • Include your city and state so organizers can understand where support is coming from.

  • Clearly identify the redevelopment proposal you’re opposing.

  • Specifically mention your support for The REALM.

  • Add a personal sentence or two if you can.

  • Be respectful, even if you’re frustrated.

  • Share this page with other people who might want to help.

DON’T:

  • Pretend to be a Howard County resident if you’re not.

  • Claim to have visited DoodleHATCH if you haven’t.

  • Make up experiences or information.

  • Send threatening, insulting, or harassing messages.

  • Assume your email is the same thing as signing the official petition.

  • Worry about making your message sound impressive. Clear and genuine is better than elaborate.

💌 The Save DoodleHATCH Email Machine

A few clicks, a little personality, and an email that helps support DoodleHATCH and The REALM. No account or signup required.

What's your connection to DoodleHATCH?
Why does protecting places like this matter to you?
✨ Your email preview
To: Lilou@DoodleHATCH.com
Subject:

Your information stays in your browser until you choose to copy or open the message. The email does not send automatically. Emails support DoodleHATCH's advocacy campaign; they are not the same as official petition signatures or zoning testimony. Please review the message before sending.

🐹 Wait. What exactly is DoodleHATCH?

I’m so glad you asked.

DoodleHATCH is an interactive art museum in Columbia, Maryland, created by artist, designer, and professional generator of wildly ambitious ideas, Lee Andersen.

The museum is designed as a pretend department store for mythological creatures, time travelers, and galactic tourists.

There are dozens of installations, and unlike most museums, you’re encouraged to touch things, explore, and participate.

There’s also an artist’s studio full of fabric and handmade garments, workshops, special events, birthday parties, free books, and opportunities for local artists to share their work.

The museum welcomes families and children, but adults are absolutely allowed to enjoy themselves, too.

And the woman behind it has spent decades bringing creativity into the community through fashion, festivals, education, and public art.

I discovered DoodleHATCH in 2020 and loved it so much that I started volunteering.

I’ve been back multiple times, and there are still things I haven’t seen.

That’s part of what makes it special. You can keep discovering things because people keep creating them.

You don't have to live near DoodleHATCH to care about it.

There are Merriment Makers everywhere.

People turning empty buildings into art spaces. People organizing parades. People teaching kids how to sew, paint, dance, or build things. People putting enormous amounts of time into projects that make their communities more interesting.

Sometimes they’re running nonprofits. Sometimes they’re working out of their garages. Sometimes they’re making something weird in a strip mall that you might drive past a hundred times without realizing what’s inside.

I hope you’ll help protect DoodleHATCH.

And I hope you’ll look around your own community, too. Visit the strange little museum. Go to the local art show. Find the person who makes giant puppets or organizes an absurd annual festival. Spend your money at the independent shop with the handmade things.

There are people everywhere creating reasons for us to be curious about being alive.

I’d like them to be able to keep doing that.

Help save DoodleHATCH. Help protect The REALM. Help keep the world interesting.

💌 Email: Lilou@DoodleHATCH.com

🌈 Visit: DoodleHATCH.com

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