Good communication, memories, romantic gestures, and pillow talk are among the key requirements of a great relationship, but the power of words doesn’t get the recognition it deserves. Here’s why this subtle detail can be crucial for a relationship’s success.
Getting off to a good start
A 2023 Forbes survey found that a third of US adults have used an online dating app or website, and 40% said it made dating easier for them. In fact, 45% of those surveyed said online dating apps are the best place to find dates, followed by festivals or concerns and being connected by a friend, each with around 33%.
Compliments are a nice way to make a first impression when chatting to someone on a dating site. Men get far fewer compliments than women, so you’ll get off to a good start if you compliment a guy.
Recognizing the power of words
Almost anything someone can say influences the emotional landscape between people. Recognizing the notion of “relationship” words and their power in interactions can transform the way people communicate.
“Relationship words” are key terms and phrases that have deep meaning and some emotional weight. They can range from simple acknowledgments to words of affirmation. The words people choose to express their feelings shape their shared experiences.
The emotional and mental impact of words is backed by social psychology research. Studies have shown that positive language can deepen intimacy and boost one’s mood, while negative language can lead to cycles of distrust and frustration.
Saying the right words at the right time can enhance trust and make your significant other feel appreciated and understood, while careless words can put a distance between you.
Example
Think about the last compliment that you perceived positively or the last time someone thanked you for something. What words did the person use? A simple “thank you” is far less memorable than telling someone you appreciate what they did for you. The right words acknowledge the impact and the effort of the other person’s actions, reinforcing a bond of gratitude and mutual respect.
More about the choice of words
Your choice of words and how you utter them can make your potential partner feel closer to you. Likewise, you’re more affected by words that have negative associations for you. If someone points out another person’s lack of confidence or indecisiveness, it will affect them more adversely than it would someone who wasn’t aware of the issue.
The words you choose when you talk to your partner can impact their views on the relationship subconsciously.
Words can draw attention to differences between your self-perception and others’ perception of you. You might think you’re a gentle and sensitive person because you never pick fights or criticize anyone. However, your partner might think you can be dominant or even rude at times. This is because of your choice of words when you and your partner talk about important things.
Lots of times, people go on a first date and behave very well, ending the date with the feeling that it went perfectly. Then, a day goes by, then another, and ultimately, one doesn’t hear back from the other person. The potential partner, in whom you’d vested so much hope, also ghosts you on social media.
Was it something you said? It may have been.
The right words make dating easier
The right choice of words can make it easier to find the love of your life. Data from the Pew Research Center reveals that 47% of Americans find dating harder now than a decade ago. Inflation contributes to that in 2024. It has affected how people choose to date. According to data from the Harris Poll, 70% of people opt for hiking and other inexpensive activities instead of going out. 44% of people are willing to go on a virtual date, and 55% would stay home for the first date, notwithstanding the safety implications of inviting a virtual stranger into your home.