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Beyond Small Talk: Building Meaningful Connections in Random Video Chats

Beyond Small Talk: Building Meaningful Connections in Random Video Chats

by Uncustomary | Mar 8, 2024 | How To

Connecting with new people in the age of social distancing can be a challenge, but random video chats offer a unique opportunity to break the ice and build meaningful connections. Beyond small talk lies the potential for deep engagement and genuine understanding, and...
From Passion to Profit: Navigating the Creative Economy on Digital Platforms

From Passion to Profit: Navigating the Creative Economy on Digital Platforms

by Uncustomary | Mar 8, 2024 | How To

The shift from traditional employment to the digital and creative economy has become increasingly pronounced, fueled by the rise of digital platforms that allow individuals to monetize their passions. These platforms provide creatives with the tools and audience...
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by Uncustomary | Mar 8, 2024 | How To

In the dynamic world of dating and hookups, confidence is undeniably one of a person’s most attractive qualities.  Whether you’re navigating the dating scene for the first time or looking to enhance your self-esteem, boosting your confidence is...
The Matchmaking Mechanics: How Hookup App Algorithms Forecast Romantic Interest

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by Uncustomary | Mar 8, 2024 | General

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The Psychology of Cam to Cam: Understanding Viewer Behavior and Preference

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by Uncustomary | Mar 8, 2024 | General

In the digital age, cam to cam interactions have become increasingly popular, providing a unique platform for intimate connections and virtual encounters. However, behind every screen lies a complex interplay of psychology, influencing viewer behavior and preferences....
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How it feels writing your memoir. New essays every How it feels writing your memoir. New essays every week.
The world is loud 🙉 The news is heavy 🙈 You're exh The world is loud 🙉 The news is heavy 🙈 You're exhausted 🙊 📬 You deserve something small + sweet just for you. I believe in tangible joy... ✂️ things you can hold, flip through, tape to your wall, and keep. Digital is great, but there’s a certain kind of magic in real paper in your real hands Think of me as your Joy Curator AKA Merrment Maker. 🌞🦄 Just like you trust an accountant with taxes or a mechanic with your car, you can delegate happy logistics to me. I’ll make sure something delightful lands in your mailbox every month. 💌 📮 Comment "mail" and I'll send you info! ⤵️ #MerrimentMaking #UncustomaryLove #SnailMail #AnalogLiving #AnalogLifestyle
I made a sign reminding people they are allowed to I made a sign reminding people they are allowed to play in the grass. 🌱 Which is a little ridiculous because nobody actually owns the concept of sitting in grass. But sometimes we forget that we're allowed to interact in public space. Or see things like grass as fun instead of something we're obligation to take care of. 🍃 We came up with weird rules like ... Walk on the sidewalk. Sit on the bench. Cross the grass if you need to get somewhere. Don't lie down unless it's specifically A Picnic. Don't roll around because... you're 38 and people can see you? There are too many totally made-up rules governing what we're allowed to do with our bodies/lives once we're 'grown up' (+ before). So I made some different ones: PLEASE PLAY IN THE GRASS 🌱 roll around take off your shoes wiggle your toes run your fingers through the plush turf watch the wind blow the blades traipse around twirl in the sun lie on your back braid pieces together feel it breathe feel yourself breathe hear the birds remember the beauty let it all feel good the rules don't apply here. we made them up anyway. the grass belongs to all of us; we are one. just be kind. leave it better than you found it. 🌱🌱🌱 I've been thinking a lot lately about how feeling more alive might require LESS advice and MORE participation. Less 12 habits to optimize your morning routine + more things you can touch. That's why i create interruptions that made you wonder "Wait... am I allowed to do that?" And then realizing nobody is actually coming to arrest you for twirling in the grass. This is part of why I love guerrilla art so much. 🎨 It can change the instructions for a place. A patch of grass turns into a place to play. A stranger changs into a participating friend. +for 5 minutes, the world can operate according to slightly different rules because somebody bothered to make them. Please play in the grass. We have enough signs telling us what not to do. 🌱💗 #MerrimentMaking #UncustomaryStreetArt #PublicArt #PlayOutside #TouchGrass
This weekend, I: 💗 switched my phone plan to save This weekend, I: 💗 switched my phone plan to save $ 140/month 💗 put a reddish tint in my hair 💗published essay 3 and outline number 4 💗 went through 3 boxes of film to photograph to use for my essays 💗 sent October birthday cards 💗 watched only murderers in the building, boogie nights, & the departed 💗ordered supplies for Halloween mail and trick or treaters 💗 cleaned the house, bought groceries, & planned the week 💗 painted my nail real & glittery
The second essay in my new book explains this infa The second essay in my new book explains this infamous photo. Why I have bandages, how I hurt my leg, and how this specific experience taught me more about my parents than any other. New essay every week. 📖🔗 #growingupinthe90s #womenauthors #childhoodmemories
One of the great things about doing a monthly roun One of the great things about doing a monthly round up 📸 is you'll start to notice patterns of the things that make you feel alive. September contains photographic proof that I: ⤵️ ⚔️ fought a child with a foam sword in a hardware store 🎹 played a public piano 🎯 tried darts for the first time + got a bullseye 👞 visited a house shaped like a shoe 📚 took the girls to a completely free bookstore 🖊️ wrote FEEL GOOD TO DO GOOD in Graffiti Alley 🧸 drove around Pennsylvania looking for vintage toys 🐕 attended trivia with a so many dogs (and brought toys for all!) 💗 spent 12+ hours turning hundreds of photographs into the story of Nick and me 📖 released my 4th book Plus temporary tattoo sleeves, Transformers, finger puppets, Costco samples, Lisa Frank stationery, 🩷& a tiny heart ring with an N on it. This is basically what I've been trying to explain with the Merriment Method. Feeling more alive has rarely come from sitting around thinking REALLY HARD about how to feel more alive. I just have to PARTICIPATE. 👇 Touch stuff. ✂️ Make things. 🚶‍♀️ Go places. 🎯 Try something new I have no opinion about. 🎈 Celebrate people in ways that make sense for them. 🖍️ Leave evidence I was here. And the best part is that even though EVERY day this month didn't feel like the ebst day of my life... I still remember that some days were wonderful. Even if some days were emotionally draining, expensive, or exhausting. ✍️ I mean, writing my book alone requires me to revist things I would rather leave buring in a filing cabinet with a lock and chain. 🔏😅 But writing my book exists right next to foam sword fights. 🤹‍♀️ It's all the same merry little life. Which is maybe why I think I've stopped being interested in chasing some permanent state of happiness. I just want to participate, play, and leave a trail of googly eyes next to a giant shoe. 👞 #MerrimentMaking #DayInTheLife #UncustomaryInTheWild #FeelMoreAlive #BaltimoreCreative
I think one of the weirder parts of being an adult I think one of the weirder parts of being an adult is realizing how many things you do that you never actually decided you liked. 🫠 Not even big stuff. Things like.. you’ve been parting your hair on the same side for 11 yrs. Or you say you’re “not really a _ person” even though you don't remember when you decided that and you're not sure if it's true anymore. I think we accidentally make a lot of tiny rules about ourselves like... This is flattering on me This isn’t “me" I’m not good at that I’m too old for this I would look stupid wearing that I can't cook I’m not creative And some of them ARE true! I’m not saying we all have secret passions for pottery and capri pants that society has beaten out of us. 😂 But some of them are just... old ideas. That someone else imparted to you or was true in 2017. This is a huge part of what I mean when I talk about Expression in the Merriment Method. I don't think you can actually “find your authentic self” because there isn't a complete version of you you'll find if you journal hard enough to excavate her.🪆 You can find a photo of what you wore a decade ago and remember feeling hot AF in it & now wonder why no one tried to stop you, or spend $200 on a hobby you make your personality for 6 months and now would pay NOT to do. Or you thought you'd never wear jeans again and now you like them. A little, anyway. Try, retry, edit, ditch it, learn, let the info change your clothes, house, relationships, boundaries, your Tuesday, & your concerning collection of rubber ducks. 🦆 I think THAT's expression. Anyway, your mission this week is to turn yourself up 5%. 📢 Pick one preference you normally ignore, dismiss, save for later, or hand over to somebody else and actually DO something with it. & if you want more places to fuck around with this, there’s an entire Expression section inside Strange + Functional with prompts, experiments & resources for figuring out what feels like you... including the stuff you haven’t tried yet. 💗 There's a 3-day free trial. #MerrimentMethod #SelfExpression #CreativeLiving #CreativeExpression
Monday reminder that there are some fabulous, whol Monday reminder that there are some fabulous, wholesome humans out there. 💁🌏🦸‍♀️ Hands up for the Merriment Makers. 🙌 #MerrimentMemes #WholesomeHumans #WholesomeMemes #KindnessIsFree #RestoringFaithInHumanity
I'm going to share a little trick with you I use i I'm going to share a little trick with you I use in coaching... 🤐 When you become aware of one of those silly, stupid, nutso thoughts your brain has (and is being VERY convincing about, so you start to believe), I want you to roleplay as an attorney. 👩‍⚖️ So maybe your brain is tricking you into believing 🤔 "you always fail", "there's never any point in trying", or "you're so ugly"... Try to argue against the thought as if you're cross examining it. ⤵️ 💯 "Oh REALLY? Well, would you say that's objectively true 100% of the time?" 📐 "Could you make the argument that this isn't grounded in something measurable?" 👥 "You're telling the jury that you have NEVER heard the opposite?" 📁 "I submit to you, Exhibit A: where the defendant actually did accomplish her goal." 🔮 "You aren't a mind reader, correct? So you are asking this court to accept your guess as a matter of fact?"" 👩‍⚖️"YOUR HONOR, HERESAY!" 👭 "If a friend came to you with this exact same situation, you wouldn't use this harsh tone with them, would you? So why is your testimony so heavily biased?" 🎭 "So your entire argument rests purely on an emotional feeling, rather than documented fact?" ⚖️ "Objection. Speculation! Move to strike!" Try it out. I've seen wonders with cognitive reframing. If you want help, apply for my mentorship to work with me one on one. 📎👩‍💻website #PlayfulPsychology #CognitiveReframing #SelfTalk #LimitingBeliefs #SelfSabotage
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