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I think one of the weirder parts of being an adult I think one of the weirder parts of being an adult is realizing how many things you do that you never actually decided you liked. 🫠

Not even big stuff.

Things like.. you’ve been parting your hair on the same side for 11 yrs. Or you say you’re “not really a _ person” even though you don't remember when you decided that and you're not sure if it's true anymore.

I think we accidentally make a lot of tiny rules about ourselves like...

This is flattering on me
This isn’t “me"
I’m not good at that
I’m too old for this
I would look stupid wearing that
I can't cook
I’m not creative

And some of them ARE true! I’m not saying we all have secret passions for pottery and capri pants that society has beaten out of us. 😂

But some of them are just... old ideas.
That someone else imparted to you or was true in 2017.

This is a huge part of what I mean when I talk about Expression in the Merriment Method.

I don't think you can actually “find your authentic self” because there isn't a complete version of you you'll find if you journal hard enough to excavate her.🪆

You can find a photo of what you wore a decade ago and remember feeling hot AF in it & now wonder why no one tried to stop you, or spend $200 on a hobby you make your personality for 6 months and now would pay NOT to do. Or you thought you'd never wear jeans again and now you like them. A little, anyway.

Try, retry, edit, ditch it, learn, let the info change your clothes, house, relationships, boundaries, your Tuesday, & your concerning collection of rubber ducks. 🦆

I think THAT's expression.

Anyway, your mission this week is to turn yourself up 5%. 📢 Pick one preference you normally ignore, dismiss, save for later, or hand over to somebody else and actually DO something with it.

& if you want more places to fuck around with this, there’s an entire Expression section inside Strange + Functional with prompts, experiments & resources for figuring out what feels like you... including the stuff you haven’t tried yet. 💗 There's a 3-day free trial.

#MerrimentMethod #SelfExpression #CreativeLiving #CreativeExpression
Monday reminder that there are some fabulous, whol Monday reminder that there are some fabulous, wholesome humans out there. 💁🌏🦸‍♀️ Hands up for the Merriment Makers. 🙌

#MerrimentMemes #WholesomeHumans #WholesomeMemes #KindnessIsFree #RestoringFaithInHumanity
I'm going to share a little trick with you I use i I'm going to share a little trick with you I use in coaching... 🤐

When you become aware of one of those silly, stupid, nutso thoughts your brain has (and is being VERY convincing about, so you start to believe), I want you to roleplay as an attorney. 👩‍⚖️ 

So maybe your brain is tricking you into believing 🤔 "you always fail", "there's never any point in trying", or "you're so ugly"...

Try to argue against the thought as if you're cross examining it. ⤵️

💯 "Oh REALLY? Well, would you say that's objectively true 100% of the time?"
📐 "Could you make the argument that this isn't grounded in something measurable?"
👥 "You're telling the jury that you have NEVER heard the opposite?"
📁 "I submit to you, Exhibit A: where the defendant actually did accomplish her goal."
🔮 "You aren't a mind reader, correct? So you are asking this court to accept your guess as a matter of fact?""
👩‍⚖️"YOUR HONOR, HERESAY!"
👭 "If a friend came to you with this exact same situation, you wouldn't use this harsh tone with them, would you? So why is your testimony so heavily biased?"
🎭 "So your entire argument rests purely on an emotional feeling, rather than documented fact?"
⚖️ "Objection. Speculation! Move to strike!"

Try it out. I've seen wonders with cognitive reframing. If you want help, apply for my mentorship to work with me one on one. 📎👩‍💻website 

#PlayfulPsychology #CognitiveReframing #SelfTalk #LimitingBeliefs #SelfSabotage
Happy Birthday to my favorite person of all time, Happy Birthday to my favorite person of all time, Nick! 🎉

I'm so glad I met you and came back to you.

You're loyal, witty, silly, generous, strong, and so, so pretty.
- 🎰 gamify your goals - 🧮 try to beat your highes - 🎰 gamify your goals 
- 🧮 try to beat your highest score
- 🪎 rack up points for completing tasks
- 🪙 trade in points for rewards
- ⏳ track your time spent on an app like habitica 
- 🌳 use a reward sticker chart (forest app trees grow)
- 🕹️ act like your life is a video game
- ⏱️ set time limits
- 🎲 wheel or dice for tasks
- 🎯 set challenges
- 🤼‍♀️ compete against someone else
- ⚖️ batch something fun with something less fun
- 📲 play Pokémon go if you’re trying to get exercise or get out of the house
- 🧽 channel Pippi Longstocking when you’re doing chores 

#merrimentmaking
My wanting and my choosing are both tied into: ex My wanting and my choosing are both tied into:

expression, creativity, communication, ideas, play, words, messages + being heard.

It's not just what turns me on. Well, it is. But it's mostly what makes me feel ALIVE? Magnetically, acutely alive.

The answer, in part is: say it. name it. write it. communicate it.
After a statistically improbable amount of evidenc After a statistically improbable amount of evidence that being alive can be absolutely brutal... 🥴

🙏  I still want to see what happens next.

That's what I mean by strange hope. 🦆

🌻 First essay drops tomorrow!!
✍️ For a year, I'm writing an essay a week! I bel ✍️ For a year, I'm writing an essay a week!

I believe the best art is detailed and honest. And that's what I can promise you this will be. 😅

🧮 The truly statistical improbable thing is that after an improbable amount of evidence that life can be absolutely fucking brutal... I still have hope. 🙏

If you're someone who also feels like their life has been a polycrisis, you're not alone. 😵‍💫

I want you to know that no matter what your life has been like, it doesn't have to end you. ☔

First essay drops on 📅 Thursday.
When I was writing my first book (over ten years a When I was writing my first book (over ten years ago!) 🖊️ I didn't think I had lived enough to write a full-on memoir.

Now, I feel differently. 😅

❣️ New essay drops every Thursday!
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