A 1:1 Sanctuary for Women in Their Becoming

THE ALT-JOY MENTORSHIP

Deep, attuned, identity-shifting support for the woman who knows she is made for more softness, more color, more aliveness… and wants a mentor who can help her remember how.

If you feel yourself changing but can’t quite name it…

If you’re in that quiet, liminal place between who you were and who you’re becoming…

If you’ve outgrown old versions of yourself, but your new self hasn’t fully arrived…

If you crave clarity, joy, direction, identity, expression, safety, and meaning…

You don’t need a coach.

You need a witness.

A mirror.

A guide.

Someone who can sit beside you (not above you) and help you hear your own voice again.

That’s what this mentorship is.

This is a space for women who are:

✨ in transition
✨ craving softer success
✨ exhausted by self-help hype
✨ ready to come back to themselves
✨ wanting depth, intimacy, nuance
✨ returning to joy after drought seasons
✨ wanting to feel creative again
✨ ready to be fully seen
✨ yearning for a life that feels like them
✨ done with surface-level fixes
✨ wanting meaning, not just progress

This is for the woman who can feel something awakening and wants to walk that becoming with someone who actually understands the terrain.

What This Mentorship Gives You

Not a curriculum.
Not modules.
Not worksheets.

This is bespoke, intuitive, identity-led partnership.

What you receive:

Weekly 1:1 Mentoring Sessions

60–75 minutes of deep emotional attunement + clarity + creative activation.
You bring the real. I bring the seeing.

Unlimited Voice/Text Support (Voxer)

Between sessions, I’m available for you. Spirals, breakthroughs, questions, wobbles, and wins.
I see things you can’t, and reflect it back to you.

Personalized Rituals, Practices, & Creative Assignments

Tiny (actually doable) micro-shifts tailored to your energy and capacity.

Identity + Joy Mapping

We refine who you’re becoming, not who you should be.

Nervous System Support

Somatic tools, grounding, emotional processing, compassionate reframing.

Wonder Restoration

Your joy, your play, your weirdness, your curiosityreawakened!

Merriment in Motion™

My signature process for shifting from stagnation into vibrant living.

Real-Time Support Through Big Transitions

Relationships, career pivots, creative rebirths, boundary work, self-love integration.

What Actually Changes

Clients leave this container with:

  • emotional steadiness

  • self-trust

  • clarity about who they are

  • a grounded sense of direction

  • creative confidence

  • a life that feels more beautiful + alive

  • gentler routines that stick

  • boundaries that feel safe

  • joy practices that feel natural

  • deeper connection to their desires

  • a softer nervous system

  • a renewed sense of identity

  • a relationship with themselves that feels warm, not critical

This is not about changing everything.
It’s about changing the way you move through everything.

Who This Mentorship Is Perfect For

You will thrive here if you:

  • are in a season of reinvention

  • crave someone who “gets” your sensitivity + depth

  • want to feel more like yourself

  • desire intimacy in your personal development

  • love creativity, ritual, whimsy, art, meaning

  • want your life to feel gentler, not harder

  • are ready for sustainable, soulful change

This is not for people seeking hustle, shame, or pressure.
This is a sanctuary, not a bootcamp.

About Mary England

I’m Mary, the Merriment Maker.
A guide for joy, identity, and emotional aliveness.

Self-Projected Projector.
Psychology background.
Creative. Sensitive. Deeply attuned.
A witness. A mirror. A storyteller.
A safe place to land.

I’ve rebuilt myself many times.
I know how to walk someone out of the fog and back into themselves.
I know how to bring color back to greyscale seasons.
I know how to transform emotional rubble into meaning.

And more than anything,
I know how to see people.
Beautifully. Accurately. Gently.

What Makes This Different

Most coaches give:

  • strategy

  • frameworks

  • structure

  • homework

I give:

  • clarity

  • identity

  • attunement

  • truth

  • presence

  • wonder

  • emotional safety

  • creative re-enchantment

This is coaching for the soul, not the schedule.

Testimonials

Jenn M., EdD, LPC

“I am mental health counselor myself and have used various therapists throughout my life. I have had the most growth while working with Mary

Mary stands out from my previous therapists because she uses her own carefully curated coaching style that allows her coach in more dynamic ways than some of the other cookie cutter therapy styles out there.

Throughout our work, Mary has used a good balance between solution-focused and cognitive-behavioral approaches that she skillfully blends with trauma-informed interventions

Unlike my previous therapists, Mary has gone above and beyond in helping me find and collect resources for my healing, including informed articles, exercises and techniques, writing prompts, action plans, etc. I highly recommend Mary to others for coaching needs.”

Maureen + Kathleen O.

“Sometimes you just gotta stop, twirl, dance and embrace your own awesomeness. And that’s what you gave Kathleen the freedom and opportunity to do! Thank you for coming to our home so prepared with happiness tips and a binder full of specific resources, tools and reminders of ways that Kathleen is awesome–all in a setting of balloons, confetti, tiaras, ribbons, music and banners.

We both LOVED your cool ideas of little things to do around town. Who knew our neighbor was so chock full of great, easy breezy places to go for fun? Not me! You have no idea what one Happy Hour with all the accouterments did for my sister AND for me! We are so doing this again! Count on it. Everyone and anyone who would like to cheer someone up — or cheer themselves up — should book Mary NOW. She’s a true professional and a true badass bringer of joy, color and happiness.”

Amy, MA LPC LCMHC

“I followed Uncustomary ~ her books and classes ~ before I began coaching with her. I’m so grateful I took the dive to get the personalized support from her! Uncustomary has so much experience, insight and wisdom.

Working with her has really helped me accomplish a long-held dream. Honestly, I didn’t know that what I wanted to create was really possible. But she helped me vision, break down the steps and create a course I’ve been only thinking about forever!

I highly recommend her as a coach for your personal life, business, passion project! I’m going to keep working with her!!”

Blair I.

You were amazing yesterday.

I told my friend you read me like a book. Which I loved!

I’m so happy to be coaching with you.

Jim F.

“I’m so grateful for the work that Mary did with me on my business branding, personal image, website, and products and services. We just finished a 60-day project that significantly re-wired my socials and brands. She helped me to clarify my vision for my business, and she gave me the tools, resources, and accountability I needed to make it a reality.

Mary is a highly skilled and experienced coach. She is also a great listener and a wonderful collaborator. She helped me to identify my strengths and weaknesses, and she worked with me to develop a plan to improve my business.

I would highly recommend Mary to anyone who is looking for a business or personal coach. I told her she’d be the first member of the Board of Directors when my business scales up. She’s an asset to any business.”

Susan H.

“Thank you for being so generous! I had a delightful time working with you!

You inspire me by how you share your uniqueness and your incredible skills and confidence!

I am so glad I met you. I am honored to share how much I appreciate you and the services you offer!

You are the best! Thank you Mary for what you do in the world.”

Lisa

“In the moments after I signed up for a 1:1 coaching call with Mary, I thought what in the heck was I doing?? Would I be wasting her time? Would I be able to get anything from it? Would it just be a bunch of unhelpful advice? Would she be able to see my messy apartment? Within 5 seconds of her reaching out to me before our session, I realized all of my fears were for naught

Mary was so incredibly helpful – she asked questions that helped her understanding my major issue straight away, worked with me to help boil it down to the basic focus point, and best of all, gave me ample resources so I could start working on things from this end. With kindness and grace, she held my hand and gave me a loving kick in the rear to do the work. If you have the chance to do a 1:1 coaching call, please take advantage of it. It’s really worth it!”

Sana A.

“I am so so happy that I talked to you and while we were talking, I was feeling that you are touching every depth and corner of my heart and were healing it, making it feel heard and loved. I got clarity on what aspects I need to work on. I was confused a lot before that, and that was a reason holding me back.

I am so thankful that you chose the thing I feel is troubling me the most right now and I too was eagerly wanting to talk about. Now I know that I need to change my behaviours, and also in what ways.

Thank you for coming into changing my life in such a way that I never had expected. And I love that you gave me so many resources. It’s a thing that very few people do. And I didn’t expect that in such a short amount of time, you will go in such depth.”

Brennon

“I have been an Uncustomary subscriber for over a year now. I appreciate the inspiration, blog posts, and the opportunity for the free e-courses. This time, Mary offered the opportunity for a 1:1 call and I made sure to take her up on it. Our discussion focused on Body Image as I’m working through some weight gain. She was very encouraging and informative and provided great resources in a follow up email.”

April A.

“Mary is super knowledgeable about various subjects and gives very practical advice.

The recap email is a great bonus and she provides so many resources to learn more about the issues you are experiencing.

Sometimes it’s great to just talk with a nuetral third party that has a listening ear and compassion to share and Mary is an excellent person to talk to. I’m excited about getting started on my homework.”

Jackie E.

“Mary’s 1:1 coaching is very insightful and helpful. I didn’t know what to expect coming into it, but the amount of work Mary put into preparing to talk to me made the coaching easy on my part.

Once the call was over, she followed up with a list of things for me to do and a recap of everything she had talked about in an email that I can reference whenever I need, and this makes setting goals and changing my perspectives easier. All in all she was great!”

The Investment

$4,000/month
with a minimum 2-month commitment

Paid monthly or upfront.

Payment plans available.

This price reflects:

+ depth
+ intimacy
+ access
+ emotional labor
+ wisdom
+ my energy
+ your transformation
+ the sacredness of the space

You’re not paying for information.
You’re paying for attunement, the most rare and transformative resource there is.

You’re paying for someone who can see the patterns you can’t.
Someone who anticipates your next edge and supports your nervous system through it.
Someone who knows how to hold depth without collapsing.
Someone who can mirror back your brilliance until you can hold it yourself.

This is identity work, emotional work, embodiment work.

And it’s relational.

High-level transformation requires closeness, presence, and capacity.

This is why it’s a premium offering.
It’s not a transaction, it’s devotion.

FAQ

Q: What Happens Next?

After you submit your form,

  • I’ll read your responses with care.

  • I’ll send a personalized voice note.

  • If it feels aligned for both of us, we’ll schedule a gentle intro call.

  • You’ll receive a welcome guide.

  • We begin your becoming.

Q: Is This Right For Me?

If something in you softened, perked up, or exhaled while reading this page…
that’s your answer.

This mentorship is for someone who:

  • wants to feel deeply seen, not managed

  • is tired of performing and ready to be witnessed

  • desires clarity, not more noise

  • craves gentler, smarter, more aligned growth

  • feels called toward a new identity but isn’t sure how to get there

  • knows they’re capable of more but is done with hustle culture

You don’t have to be “ready.”
You just have to feel the recognition.

If your body said yes before your brain caught up, you’re in the right place.

Q: What Actually Happens Inside a Mentorship Session?

A session with me is not like traditional coaching or therapy.

Here’s what it feels like:

Attunement — I listen beneath your words and reflect back what’s actually true.
Clarity — I help you see your patterns, power, and purpose with clean, loving precision.
Energetic calibration — I tune your nervous system toward safety, creativity, and expansion.
Strategy that feels like relief — We identify what actually works for your energy, not generic advice.
Identity work — You grow into the version of yourself your life has been waiting for.
Compassion — You don’t have to pretend, perform, or be the “best student.”
Momentum — You leave knowing exactly what your next step is, and why it matters.

Clients often say:

“It felt like someone finally turned the lights on.”

Q: What Results Can I Expect?

Results will vary depending on your life, energy, and goals, but these are the most common shifts clients report:

  • feeling grounded instead of reactive

  • clarity replacing spiraling

  • ending burnout cycles

  • finally being able to follow through

  • higher-quality opportunities landing in their lap

  • getting paid more with less effort

  • better emotional regulation

  • more creativity + inspiration

  • feeling like themselves again

  • making decisions from calm, not panic

  • life becoming simpler, lighter, and more aligned

This is identity work.
When your inner reality shifts, your outer reality responds quickly.

Q: How Much Time Do I Need To Commit Each Week?

This mentorship is designed for people with real lives, fluctuating energy, and full plates.

Expect:

  • one session per week (typically 60–75 minutes)

  • gentle integration between sessions

  • light touchpoints and support as needed

There is no homework, no pressure, no need to “keep up.”

Your only job is:

  • show up honestly

  • be open

  • let yourself be witnessed

Everything else unfolds naturally.

Q: What If I’m Nervous Or Not In A Good Headspace?

Then this is especially for you.

You don’t need:

  • to be confident

  • to be stable

  • to be productive

  • to be “ready”

You just need the desire to feel better and the willingness to be supported.

Your nervous system gets to come exactly as it is.

Q: I’ve Tried Coaching Before & It Didn’t Help. Will This Be Different?

Most coaching programs:

  • give you strategies you can’t implement

  • don’t understand neurodivergent or sensitive brains

  • mistake burnout for lack of discipline

  • push instead of attune

  • treat symptoms instead of patterns

This is different.

I don’t overwhelm you, I decode you.
I don’t add pressure, I create capacity.
I don’t hand you systems, I help you build a life that fits you.

This work lives in the sweet spot between:

  • identity

  • energy

  • clarity

  • emotional regulation

  • grounded strategy

It works because it honors who you are, not who you’re trying to be.

Q: Do You Offer Refunds?

Because of the depth, access, and personalized nature of this mentorship, all sales are final.

If you’re unsure, trust the pace of your body.
A session will never push you, it will meet you.

Q: Do I Need a Consultation First?

Many clients know immediately and enroll.
Others prefer a short connection call.
Both are welcome.

If you want to talk before joining, you can book a free 15-minute clarity call.
(No pressure. No pitch. Just presence.)

Q: How Will I Know If I’m Truly Ready?

You’ll feel:

  • a nudge

  • a pull

  • an opening

  • a calm “yes”

  • a quiet knowing

  • a relief in your chest

  • or simply… curiosity

Readiness for this work is not hype energy, it’s a soft recognition.

If you feel that?

You’re ready.

Brennon

“I have been an Uncustomary subscriber for over a year now. I appreciate the inspiration, blog posts, and the opportunity for the free e-courses. This time, Mary offered the opportunity for a 1:1 call and I made sure to take her up on it. Our discussion focused on Body Image as I’m working through some weight gain. She was very encouraging and informative and provided great resources in a follow up email.”

Susan H.

“Thank you for being so generous! I had a delightful time working with you!

You inspire me by how you share your uniqueness and your incredible skills and confidence!

I am so glad I met you. I am honored to share how much I appreciate you and the services you offer!

You are the best! Thank you Mary for what you do in the world.”

Blair I.

You were amazing yesterday.

I told my friend you read me like a book. Which I loved!

I’m so happy to be coaching with you.

April A.

“Mary is super knowledgeable about various subjects and gives very practical advice.

The recap email is a great bonus and she provides so many resources to learn more about the issues you are experiencing.

Sometimes it’s great to just talk with a nuetral third party that has a listening ear and compassion to share and Mary is an excellent person to talk to. I’m excited about getting started on my homework.”

Jenn M., EdD, LPC

“I am mental health counselor myself and have used various therapists throughout my life. I have had the most growth while working with Mary

Mary stands out from my previous therapists because she uses her own carefully curated coaching style that allows her coach in more dynamic ways than some of the other cookie cutter therapy styles out there.

Throughout our work, Mary has used a good balance between solution-focused and cognitive-behavioral approaches that she skillfully blends with trauma-informed interventions

Unlike my previous therapists, Mary has gone above and beyond in helping me find and collect resources for my healing, including informed articles, exercises and techniques, writing prompts, action plans, etc. I highly recommend Mary to others for coaching needs.”

Maureen + Kathleen O.

“Sometimes you just gotta stop, twirl, dance and embrace your own awesomeness. And that’s what you gave Kathleen the freedom and opportunity to do! Thank you for coming to our home so prepared with happiness tips and a binder full of specific resources, tools and reminders of ways that Kathleen is awesome–all in a setting of balloons, confetti, tiaras, ribbons, music and banners.

We both LOVED your cool ideas of little things to do around town. Who knew our neighbor was so chock full of great, easy breezy places to go for fun? Not me! You have no idea what one Happy Hour with all the accouterments did for my sister AND for me! We are so doing this again! Count on it. Everyone and anyone who would like to cheer someone up — or cheer themselves up — should book Mary NOW. She’s a true professional and a true badass bringer of joy, color and happiness.”

Amy, MA LPC LCMHC

“I followed Uncustomary ~ her books and classes ~ before I began coaching with her. I’m so grateful I took the dive to get the personalized support from her! Uncustomary has so much experience, insight and wisdom.

Working with her has really helped me accomplish a long-held dream. Honestly, I didn’t know that what I wanted to create was really possible. But she helped me vision, break down the steps and create a course I’ve been only thinking about forever!

I highly recommend her as a coach for your personal life, business, passion project! I’m going to keep working with her!!”

Jim F.

“I’m so grateful for the work that Mary did with me on my business branding, personal image, website, and products and services. We just finished a 60-day project that significantly re-wired my socials and brands. She helped me to clarify my vision for my business, and she gave me the tools, resources, and accountability I needed to make it a reality.

Mary is a highly skilled and experienced coach. She is also a great listener and a wonderful collaborator. She helped me to identify my strengths and weaknesses, and she worked with me to develop a plan to improve my business.

I would highly recommend Mary to anyone who is looking for a business or personal coach. I told her she’d be the first member of the Board of Directors when my business scales up. She’s an asset to any business.”

Lisa

“In the moments after I signed up for a 1:1 coaching call with Mary, I thought what in the heck was I doing?? Would I be wasting her time? Would I be able to get anything from it? Would it just be a bunch of unhelpful advice? Would she be able to see my messy apartment? Within 5 seconds of her reaching out to me before our session, I realized all of my fears were for naught

Mary was so incredibly helpful – she asked questions that helped her understanding my major issue straight away, worked with me to help boil it down to the basic focus point, and best of all, gave me ample resources so I could start working on things from this end. With kindness and grace, she held my hand and gave me a loving kick in the rear to do the work. If you have the chance to do a 1:1 coaching call, please take advantage of it. It’s really worth it!”

Sana A.

“I am so so happy that I talked to you and while we were talking, I was feeling that you are touching every depth and corner of my heart and were healing it, making it feel heard and loved. I got clarity on what aspects I need to work on. I was confused a lot before that, and that was a reason holding me back.

I am so thankful that you chose the thing I feel is troubling me the most right now and I too was eagerly wanting to talk about. Now I know that I need to change my behaviours, and also in what ways.

Thank you for coming into changing my life in such a way that I never had expected. And I love that you gave me so many resources. It’s a thing that very few people do. And I didn’t expect that in such a short amount of time, you will go in such depth.”

Jackie E.

“Mary’s 1:1 coaching is very insightful and helpful. I didn’t know what to expect coming into it, but the amount of work Mary put into preparing to talk to me made the coaching easy on my part.

Once the call was over, she followed up with a list of things for me to do and a recap of everything she had talked about in an email that I can reference whenever I need, and this makes setting goals and changing my perspectives easier. All in all she was great!”